My ex always uses the threat of court as a weapon.

Going to court should always be the last resort. Non court methods of dispute resolution should be the primary method of resolving any family law dispute. If you ex refuses to engage, and continues to use the threat of court as a weapon – this may amount to a form of harassment and emotional manipulation. You should document all attempts you have made to avoid court by suggesting alternative methods of dispute resolution. If a court considers your ex has not seriously tried to settle matters out of court – they can be ordered to pay your costs. This may act as a deterrent to the threats.